Sealed with a kiss!

Sealed with a kiss!
Laura & Chris' Wedding at JCRaulston Arboretum

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Julie and Richard Had Two Weddings!

Julie and Richard met with me last April to plan their wedding ceremony for November 25, 2011at  Fearrington Country Inn. We worked hard to create a very memorable and meaningful ceremony for them. It was the second marriage for both of them and it was very important that this ceremony be very personal and dear to their hearts. Their story is very special and they felt like they have been handed a miracle in finding each other. Julie was quite happy to expound on the details of their meeting the first time and the subsequent events. Richard, on the other hand, travels a lot and had sent me a very brief summary of his side of the story. I told Julie I needed more material to work with and so she got on his case to call me which he did and as a result I took reams of notes and gathered fantastic material to work with in fashioning that section of the ceremony. We finalized the ceremony script by early October and were all set for their wedding the Friday after Thanksgiving Day. Later on in October, Julie called me and said that she and Richard really really wanted to get married on the magical date of 11/11/11 at 11:00 AM because of its significance and emailed me an article on it. The article: 

The number 11 is thought of as a "master" number in numerology because it is a double digit of the same number. When this occurs - the vibrational frequency of the prime number doubles in power.  The very basic & primary understanding of the number One is that of new beginnings & purity. When we see this digit doubled as with the number 11, these attributes double in strength.  The power of the number is further intensified this year because on November 11, 2011 (11.11.11) the number resonates three times.  The year 2011 is significant because the sum of 2011 is 4 (2+0+1+1=4).  In numerology the number 4 represents form, foundation, and structure.  It is spirit manifest into matter, or those things that bring everything "down to earth." 2011 is a turning point year where the divine creative spirit, represented by 11.11.11 sets the foundation for what is to transpire in 2012.

They were thinking of going to the courthouse and getting secretly married on 11/11/11and wanted to check with me to see if that would be okay--would it affect my doing their "public" wedding later. I told them it would not affect it; that their 11/25/11 ceremony would technically be a renewal of vows ceremony and the ceremony on 11/11/11 would be their legal ceremony and real anniversary date. Then I invited them to come to my wedding garden, weather permitting, on 11/11/11 and I would be happy to marry them instead of having a standard quickie civil ceremony at the courthouse. They loved it! So I wrote a much simpler and shorter ceremony for them but used the same vows and ring words from the ceremony we had already created but added some universal spiritual elements such as having them join left hands and right hands together to form the symbol of infinity "blessing their marriage in the eternal ebb and flow of the Universe" which fit in quite nicely with the significance of 11/11/11. I put a lightbulb in a napkin for Richard to break (they are both Jewish). On that chilly crisp fall magical morning, Julie and Richard, two witnesses--my husband Dave and my "roadie" Marty and I gathered in my wedding garden which was beautifully strewn with an abundance of fallen leaves.  Here are the photos of that day: 
I timed it so that I pronounced them married at 11 minutes and 11 seconds after 11:00 AM!
 And then it was official, Julie and Richard were wife and husband, at last! And so happy!
 Fast forward to 11/25/11 at Fearrington Inn in the Crabapple Garden.
11/25/11 was actually a warmer, nicer day weather-wise than 11/11/11 and Richard had let the cat out of the bag that they were already legally married so it was no longer a secret! 
This is the Garden Room. We had our rehearsal here the day before because it was cold and rainy outside. This room is so cozy and inviting with a crackling fire in the fireplace. We gathered here before the ceremony and it is where the guests congregated for cocktails after the ceremony.
The sand ceremony was set to go. Richard has three children and Julie two and they wanted to include them in the ceremony as well as their parents.
Everything is ready so I am taking a load off my feet before it is time for the guests to be seated. You can see what a beautiful, sunny, glorious day it is.
Craig and Ed with Arioso Strings arrived and got set up and went over the cues with Gilda McDaniels, the event manager for Fearrington. You will see Ed and Craig in many weddings on this blog. I love working with them and all the musicians with Arioso Strings.
The groom and his best man and son and I waited to the side of the garden until it was our turn to walk in.
Julie was escorted in by her father, Sandy. She is so beautiful and her dress is perfect for her.
Julie's sister, Nancy, was her Matron of Honor. Richard's Best Man was his good friend, Daryl. David, Richard's son, served as the groomsman and his daughter, Andrea, was his grooms-woman. David's other daughter, Michelle, was a bridesmaid, along with Julie's daughter, Hope. Unfortunately Julie's son, Alex, was not able to be with us on this day.
Julie's parents, Rhoda and Sandy, celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary this year and Richard's parents, Marsha and Irving, their 53rd anniversary this year. Julie and Richard wanted to honor them on their special day so we surprised them with a tribute. (Poor Julie, the sun is right in her eyes when she looks at Richard!)
We included the Jewish wedding custom of the cup of wine ceremony where they each drank from the cup as I said: "L'Chaim, may your cup of life runneth over!"
 Pretty girls! 
Telling their wonderful story! 
They made their vows to each other again and then exchanged their rings which had been passed among their guests to be infused with their blessings for the couple.
Then it was time for the family unity sand ceremony. They included their parents who poured in sand representing Julie and Richard's heritages and serving as a strong foundation upon which Julie and Richard will build their marriage.
Then Julie and Richard separately poured in half of their sand making two more layers.
I called their children to come forth and each pour a layer of different color sand representing them. Hope poured in sand representing her brother, Alex.
Then Julie and Richard blended the rest of their sand together as they poured it into the container.
I placed the glass for Richard to break at his feet and made the pronouncement of marriage (again)!
When he broke the glass we all shouted "Mahzel Tov" which means congratulations and good luck and they kissed!
Awww... such a sweet kiss and such a wonderful couple!
 And away they go! 
Cheryl Kast, our wedding director with Fearrington, is such a delight to work with. I discovered that her lilting English accent is actually a South African accent where she grew up. Thanks, Cheryl, for another beautifully orchestrated wedding!
 The finished vase of pretty layers of symbolic sand. 
Julie and Richard, you are such a delightful couple and it was my pleasure to do two ceremonies for you. Thanks for being who you are and for your love which just radiates between you and all around you!

1 comment:

Reverend Kayelily Middleton said...

I received this thank you note from Julie and Richard a few days after their wedding on 11/25/11:

"Dear Kayelily,
Thank you so much for providing Richard and me with another beautiful ceremony! We received many wonderful compliments on how warm, loving, and all inclusive it was. The sand ceremony was a big hit:) You were a joy to work with. I look forward to having you officiate future wedding ceremonies (we have 3 girls to marry!) Again, many thanks for making our wedding day so special.
Lots of love and blessings,
Julie and Richard"

Julie and Richard, many thanks for your kind words and I would be honored to officiate the weddings of your 3 beautiful daughters! It was such a pleasure getting to know you and your parents too. Such fine people in your families. Please stay in touch!